Society has taken over our rights as woman and put us in the new bachelorette category…  In a feminine point of view women are just as capable of having nymphomaniac desires just like men . Expressing yourself is tough as a lady of color in every category; political views, sports, traumas ,”sex” (tune in for more) , religious beliefs  AND it is STILL a common thought process that these are not ” lady like” conversations  . Only 2 out of 1,600 men agreed to the fact that woman are as equally capable of holding a no strings attached relationship because in fact a woman knows at that instant where she sees herself with this particular male figure. In fact I find this number to be irrational for the 2 of you out there.. come see me I have a surprise. 

             How often do we cum? Is it okay to tell your “type” that you’d actually like clitoris stimulation and that YES we can cum from penetration? How do you differentiate a one time fling from a long term commitment ? Simple you don’t.

New York City being the home of the those who never sleep, we come across a thousand faces and never care to exchange words due to the insecurity that the person we approach might just be the perfect stranger. Sexuality is the new baby boom of this era confusing the generation and creating biased opinions on what it is to have an unresisting physical connection . Having sex on the first date does not differ you from the chances of having a third date chance. I see these arguments on twitter ALL day. WHO gives a fuck if he does not call back? because truth of the matter is you probably accomplished more on your own. OR to give him some credit “ the star were not aligned for you that night”

(some bullshit I like to say in order to make myself feel okay)

 MY experience has ranged from having sex with no intentions of commitment to 6 years later married without a ring.. I know what you’re thinking.. AND nope we are not together. It could have been that we rushed but nevertheless the theory was proven to be wrong. I had a partner in which I had occasional sex, it seemed to be working perfectly fine. I did not want more neither did he, we fucked , spoke and then we drifted. Being ghosted sucks.. but your kewchie is not broken, his communication is. I particularly learned my body, with a most recent experience , I explored kinks, how pleasant pain can feel and I discovered that a lot of you girllsss are into the same but are too afraid to speak up.

Growing up in the BRONX at times when it came to sex , it limited me.. do you know how afraid I was of being labeled a hoe? while the boys were able to explore there sexual desires freely. SAD times “stay woke”. 

          I do not care about the societal norms, nor do I care at what pace we are headed in because I am here for the ride (no pun intended). If you are a woman reading this or even a man, voice what you truly want. You’d be surprised at what response you get from the other party or parties.. whatever you’re into. 

Ida B. Wells once said    ” The way to right wrongs is to turn the light of truth upon them”, Has time really transcended to the point where we are categorized and patronized for using our woman abilities for our pleasure and our personal benefits . Women of color gained our rights in the 1965 Voting rights act.. look it up, because I sure did. Just click the link act like its theshaderoom. https://www.politico.com/news/magazine/2020/08/26/19th-amendment-meant-for-black-women-400995

57 years later we are still facing adversity, This piece originated 2,907 days ago and unfortunately I still feel the same.

                My hair being too natural is no longer up for debate, me voicing my opinion should not intimidate it should help initiate a larger conversation that is needed. Normalize women of color having an open space to vocalize desires, needs or unpleasant situations without being intimidated. 

TRUST me when I tell you, the world fucks us enough. Let me guide you through this. 

Waking up in the new “New York City ” means taking control of where you want to stand in life , whether that is through your sexuality or not. I often love to mention our BASIC rights to our lady right because when I sit and analyzed the two I find that we are equally pushed to the side in both arenas.

Lets face it we are no longer living in the 70’s.

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